Have you ever asked yourself, “I wish someone would just tell me how to get there.” “Tell me exactly what I need to know so I’m not having to guess.” Maybe you have thought this and maybe you’ve felt you have no purpose in life with no hope for the future because of the season of life you’re in. Maybe it’s working too many hours, maybe you have lost your job, maybe it’s stress at home or with friends, a recent breakup or divorce. The reasons could be endless, but one thing remains true- you have lost your motivation or you are just unsure how to fix the problem and need guidance to fix it.
Self motivation comes easy for me, not because I’m special or one in a million, but because I have a story just like you and I’ve made a strategy that I follow. Anytime I start to feel lost or unmotivated I go back to this strategy.
I have put together a list of motivational advice that I believe will spark that fire we all have in us.
Self-image is how you perceive yourself. It is a number of self-impressions that have built up over time: What are your hopes and dreams? What do you think and feel? What have you done throughout your life and what did you want to do? These self-images can be very positive, giving you confidence in your thoughts and actions, or negative, making you doubtful of your capabilities and ideas.
Surprisingly, your self-image can be very different from how the world sees you. Some people who outwardly seem to have it all (intelligence, looks, personal and financial success) may have a bad self-image. Conversely, others who have had a very difficult life and multiple hardships may also have a very positive self-image.
Some believe that a person’s self-image is defined by events that affect him or her (doing well or not in school, work, or relationships.) Others believe that a person’s self-image can help shape those events. There is probably some truth to both schools of thought. Failing at something can certainly cause one to feel bad about oneself, just as feeling good about oneself can lead to better performance on a project. But it cannot be denied that your self-image has a very strong impact on your happiness, and your outlook on life can affect those around you.
If You Project a Positive Self-Image, People Will Be More Likely to See You as a Positive, Capable Person
However, it’s important that your self-image be both positive and realistic. Having a self-image that is unrealistic can be a drawback, whether that self-image is negative OR positive. Sometimes having an occasional negative thought or criticism about oneself can encourage change, hard work, growth and success. Sometimes having too positive an image of oneself can encourage complacency, underachievement, and arrogance. Finding the balance between feeling positive about oneself but having realistic goals is important.
Self-Confidence involves getting yourself ready for your journey. You need to take stock of where you are, think about where you want to go, get yourself in the right mindset for your journey, and commit yourself to starting it and staying with it. Prepare for your journey by looking at what you’ve already achieved, think about your strengths, whats important to you and where you want to go. Start managing your mind and commit yourself to success.
Re-asses and adjust your beliefs about the difficult times you go through. You must become aware of the different parts that make up your belief. Release the emotions you’ve held in those beliefs. Shift your perspective so you can see the identity as false. In the process of changing a belief you have to include changing your identity, or at least your mind’s false version of identity. Since your false identity is part of memories, when you change a belief you will also change emotional memories.
Insight. Realizing through your positive and negative life experiences, you are equipped to lay the path for your destiny.
Take responsibility for your life. Don’t play the blame game. Plain and simple, you need to take responsibility for how your life has been, is, and will be. Own you! No matter your season of life.
Embrace your image. Complete acceptance of your identity is central to your existence. “Your task is not to seek for Love, but to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” — Rumi
Weathering your storms. Have you ever felt like giving up? Have you ever said, “I’m tired of being strong?” This is the time in your life when you need to just weather your storm. Avoid making decisions that will hurt you down the road beacuse life seems hectic at the moment.
Be honest with yourself. Being honest with yourself means seeing yourself clearly, but what does that mean? It’s challenging to come to an accurate self-perception. The perception of ourselves are formed by the stories we tell ourselves. Those stories can be extremely inaccurate. Start by being real and truly honest with yourself. Think about a time when you felt everything was going right. What were you like? What were you capable of? How did you view yourself at that time?
Listen to your heart. Don’t talk yourself out of things you really want for your life. Follow that gut feeling. When it feels right, it will feel light.
Create a vision for your life. Creating a vision for your life might seem like a waste of time, but it’s not. Creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams.
Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision quickly—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.
Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize of what you want your life to look like.
I hope this message was able to speak life into you. If it did, please share it with your friends and family on social media and tag me. There is so much more powerful and empowering things to come. Take care and have an amazing day.